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52 Tips to Get Unstuck in 2014

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
52 Tips to Get Unstuck in 2014
Sometimes I dread the new year for this uneasy feeling of making resolutions that may not stick.

The problem with resolutions is the follow through.

I would get lazy, lost or overwhelmed by something “more important.”

Each time I would gain some momentum in my life, my mind would create these negative stories, causing me stop following through on trying to lose weight, recharge my career or do something meaningful for my quest to get my book published.

My mind held me back and made me feel stuck.

Over the last few years, I made this important realization: Finding a way to overcome our mind’s negative overthinking is a powerful way to get unstuck. And it requires not some bold, unique strategy but a simple one.

To get unstuck and follow through on our goals, we need to break the pattern of overthinking, replacing it with something more useful — even if it’s for a brief moment.

… must… break… old… pattern

And so for 2014, I have developed a few tips that I have used daily to help interrupt the negative pattern of overthinking that keeps us from achieving our resolutions and goals and makes us feel stuck.

To get unstuck in life… to move forward on our 2014 goals, it helps to try these simple techniques whenever we encounter the disabling force of our overthinking mind.

I want to help you get unstuck in life because I truly believe that each of us are meant to be making a positive contribution to the place we work, the people who we love and the passion we pursue.

Here are 52 tips to get unstuck and move forward in 2014:

1. Accept things as they are not as you wish they were or ought to be

2. Don’t listen to negative people

3. Start the morning off on the right foot by creating your vision for the day, listening to positive words, writing and creating

4. Read one page from an inspiring book

5. Take action right this minute

6. Get busy with a specific project

7. Insert positive ideas into your head proactively twice a day

8. Turn off the news

9. Stay away from gossip

10. Exercise for just 15 minutes each day

11. Take a course, a seminar or a class that teaches you something new

12. Do something really hard that requires your total concentration

13. Set a goal and work towards it

14. Believe that the possibility of success lies at the intersection of work and persistence

15. Listen to someone tell a story about their life

16. Learn one new skill

17. Read a book that teaches you something

18. Change your body’s posture

19. Call a friend

20. Get off Facebook and social media for a half a day

21. Write down what you really want to achieve in your life… write from the heart not from your head

22. Attend a meetup or a conference where you’re likely to meet interesting people

23. Take a lesson on how to swim, play tennis or any other sport

24. Read a biography about someone interesting you admire

25. Find someone who’s doing what you want to do and say to yourself, “If he/she can do it, why CAN’T I?” and get busy doing it

26. Feed your body natural foods

27. Decrease your caffeine and increase water intake

28. Meditate or connect with your higher self each day

29. Smile at the smallest things

30. Watch an inspirational movie that lifts you up

31. Talk to someone who has been through a rough time and ask them what they learned

32. Take small actions towards your bigger goal every single day

33. Pinch yourself each time you start going down a negative spiral of thoughts

34. Have 4 or 5 rituals that you do every single day no matter what happens

35. Celebrate the small milestones because it fuels your momentum towards your bigger success

36. Ignore the critics because you know the real truth: that you are unstoppable

37. Start a conversation with a total stranger at the supermarket or coffee shop

38. Stop believing that others are more fortunate than you — because you don’t know the chaos that people have been through

39. Participate, contribute and share

40. Volunteer for a tough assignment, project or task

41. Travel to an unknown place and force yourself to take public transportation when you get there

42. Eat and drink at the right time of the day, when your body needs it

43. Set a compelling goal for yourself for 3 months and put it on a piece of paper and stick it all of your home where you see it morning, noon and night

44. Start without having a complete plan. Most of us figure it out as we go.

45. Take every rejection or problem as an offering from life for you to grow

46. Be strong in your beliefs but flexible with your plans

47. Say YES more often

48. Work really, really hard at something you believe in

49. Spend more time doing than planning

50. Recognize that your future is unwritten and being created right now

51. Put as much trust and faith in yourself as you have in someone you respect

52. Use your hands to fix something that needs your effort

Learning to get unstuck in life doesn’t have to be so complicated.

It can be as simple as making a call, writing something down, going somewhere and meeting people.

The key is to stop overthinking the future or the direction in your life and to start doing something. Anything that brings out our abilities, our purpose and our passion.

No one will have the perfect path, the perfect job, the perfect career or perfect life because perfection is an illusion. Once we learn to accept the ups and downs and simply move forward, we will get unstuck in life and start living.

I wish you great success, prosperity, success, happiness and lots of fun in 2014.

— Bob Miglani

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Physical inactivity after cardiac surgery linked with higher risk of depression

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ScienceDaily: Depression News
Physical inactivity after cardiac surgery linked with higher risk of depression
Patients undergoing cardiac surgery should be assessed for depression and physical activity, say researchers.

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Forget About Resolutions! 5 Things to Remove Instead of Resolve

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
Forget About Resolutions! 5 Things to Remove Instead of Resolve
Ready for a Change?

Everyone talks about resolutions this time of year. Making changes, setting goals, remembering dreams we once had, and wanting to live better. But the only thing I see happening with resolutions is “adding” to the already secret mess that is my life. Secret because only I know the truth about my life and only you know the truth about yours — and we work very hard to cover up those truths, in an attempt to appear normal. Not one of us is normal — there is no such thing.

I am a twice-divorced mother of four who works her ass off every day — not only because I need the money, but because I am compelled to do so. True that two of my children have flown the coop — it is more of a coop than a nest, and my two remaining at home are stretching and testing their wings, steadying themselves for their own solo flights. I have survived foreclosure and poverty. I even survived a self-imposed exile from love to find love again. My life is less than perfect. And I am not alone in that proclamation. No matter how many jokes or creative memes I post to Facebook or uplifting messages I try to tweet out, there will always be havoc — or chaos, as many call it — in my life. I have come to realize that “this” is my normal.

In a lifelong recognition of my normal, instead of adding resolutions to my already frenzied new year, I have decided to let go. Letting go will be my mantra for 2014.

5 Reminders of How You Can Let Go to Create a Better Life

1. I will let go of the hurt from my past. We all have painful memories from our past. When we do not let them go, they continue to hurt. The searing pain is felt over and over again and the wounds of past hurt are never allowed to heal. I am the one, not the person or incident from my past which hurt me — I am the one hurting me now. Let go of old pain.

2. I will forgive. While similar, forgiveness is not the same as letting go of past pain. Forgiveness is for me — I am not forgiving to help my transgressor to feel better about their transgression. I am forgiving so nothing is still held in my heart and head. Forgiveness can be as real as forgetting — if you let it. Let forgiveness into your heart and head.

3. Devise a new dream. Life changes and crap happens that makes past dreams no longer feasible. You can dream a new dream, or you can create a new path to reach a former dream. It’s not only ok to change your dream, it’s okay to change how you get there.

4. Let go of weakness. Weaknesses are not things to keep you from achieving what you want, view them instead as ways for you to grow. Tackle them! Let tackling a personal liability be the riskiest risk you take in 2014. And while I have carried Sun Tzu’s advice of “turn your liabilities into assets” with me for years, I don’t always do it. This year is my year to let go of the thought that a liability weakens me, it will instead be my teacher.

5. Remove negativity from your day, your year, your life. The hardest thing in the world is to remain positive and upbeat during times of trial or adversity. It has been proven over and over again that the power of positivity is greater than any medicine or counsel. When a crisis or situation occurs that seems to be drowning with negativity, work around it — find the silver lining. If there is an individual, friend or foe, who rains negativity on your already difficult life parade, remove them, let them wash away. Their presence is not helpful nor should it be welcome and allowed to continue.

Life is Never Easy

Of course, life is not a bed of roses, weed and worry free. But it can be with just a little addition of nourishment and continual removal of pests and weeds. There is no easy life — there is only life and it is a long and winding road, full of unexpected twists and worrisome turns. Control what you can by letting go of what doesn’t and shouldn’t have control over you. Make this the year to lose the chains that bind you.

“I will break these chains that bind me. Happiness will find me. Leave the past behind me. Today my life begins…” Bruno Mars — Today My Life Begins

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10 Things Every 20-Something Should Do in 2014

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
10 Things Every 20-Something Should Do in 2014
It’s crazy how quickly time is going by. Another year is already ending and another one is about to begin. Every year, I make goals for myself and can never seem to accomplish them all. It’s like I try to cram all of these tasks — for instance, starting a company, winning the lottery, getting a book deal, creating a TV show, etc. — into a year, but most are not actually all that realistic (#AmbitousPeopleProblems). Like, I’m probably not going to become famous overnight, right? However, beyond the many things I hope to accomplish some time in the near future, there are a couple of things I — and you — should do in the new year no matter what.

Here are 10 things every 20-something should do in 2014:

1. Be active. Whether you’re going to the gym twice a day every day or you’re taking walks around your neighborhood three times a week, make sure you are doing some sort of physical activity on the regular. Don’t say you’re too busy for it… we’re all busy. You just need to make time for it (especially if you sit at a desk all week long). Whether that time is on the weekend, at 5:00 a.m. every day, or right before you go to bed, make it happen. Five minutes of crunches is better than nothing.

2. Take a vacation. We are given mandatory vacation days for a reason. Don’t use them all on days for appointments and visiting home. Go somewhere warm! Go somewhere romantic! Go somewhere exotic and different. You have your own money now. And you certainly deserve it.

3. Have a crazy night(s) out. No, you don’t have to get wasted every time you go out. You don’t even have to drink every time you go out. In fact, you don’t even need to go out that much. But make sure you have at least one wild night this year when you do go out (preferably more than one). And by wild night, I of course mean drink so much that you do stupid things you will most definitely regret the next morning while puking up pizza in the toilet. Everyone needs a good story every now and then.

4. Think. Think before you spend. Think before you eat. Think before you tweet. Think before you drink. A problem with us 20-somethings is that we rarely think — we just DO. We have (barely any) money, so we spend it. We hate saying no, so we constantly find ourselves eating poorly and drinking way too often. We are under pressure by Instagram and feel the need to add a filter to every single picture we take and then post it on all social media sites we use. We tweet whatever is on our mind. And we post things on Facebook in the heat of the moment. This year, think before you do any of the above. Please.

5. Cook something. As a 20-something, you need to learn to cook. You should already know how to cook pasta and eggs — and know how to use the oven. Now, spice up your pasta and eggs with new recipes… and of course learn what to do with meat, whether it’s in a crock pot, the oven, the stove, or on a grill. Of course, microwavable meals are nice when you worked late or are just way too busy. But to be healthy, you must cook! I’m not saying turn into a chef… but look easy recipes up online. Cooking is really not that bad.

6. Get rid of fake friends. And stop being fake yourself! You graduated college. You’re in the real world. There’s no need to keep pretending you like so-and-so just because they’re friends with your friends and you feel you have to. But there’s also no need to be mean to people. You’re too old for that. Be cordial, but don’t go out of your way to make a friendship happen that’s just not going to happen. Focus that energy on new friendships with people you actually like. Don’t exclude people, don’t be cliquey, and ignore any drama that attempts to come your way. Do YOU and don’t worry about anyone else.

7. Binge watch a TV show. Or just start watching good TV (it’s out there). Pay your 20-something dues and watch HBO’s Girls. See what the buzz was about this year and check out Breaking Bad. Dabble in Homeland. Put on a pair of sweatpants and Netflix Orange is the New Black for an entire weekend. You might feel useless, but it’s okay to be a waste of space sometimes (really, it is).

8. Buy something valuable. Whether it be a phone, a computer, a TV, a tablet, or a designer bag, treat yourself. Embrace your inner responsible adult by buying something you could never afford in college and then be responsible for that item. It will be good practice for having a child. Okay, not really, but whatever.

9. Call friends and family. No one calls people anymore. We just tweet, text, and… well that’s about it since Facebook wall writing is now a thing of the past. We don’t listen to people anymore, so our conversations are completely impersonal. When someone is being nice, we sometimes mistake them for being rude and of course never say anything because it’s just a text. This year, take a few minutes every week (or couple of weeks) to call people. Of course face to face communication is ideal, but if you have to resort to something else and you really want to catch up with someone — or keep up with someone — give them a call.

10. Relax. Stop planning something for every second of every day and take a break. It’s okay to sit on the couch and watch trashy TV once in a while. It’s okay to go to bed early to catch up on sleep on a weekend night. It’s okay to do absolutely nothing for an entire weekend once in a while. In fact, it’s almost necessary at this point in our lives. Take a minute or two to sit down and not think every once in a while. You’ll appreciate the lack of stress in your life a lot more than you did back in college.

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Gene that influences the ability to remember faces identified

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ScienceDaily: Relationship News
Gene that influences the ability to remember faces identified
New findings suggest the oxytocin receptor, a gene known to influence mother-infant bonding and pair bonding in monogamous species, also plays a special role in the ability to remember faces. This research has important implications for disorders in which social information processing is disrupted, including autism spectrum disorder. In addition, the finding may lead to new strategies for improving social cognition in several psychiatric disorders.

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Bipolar Disorder, Alcohol Use, and Psychiatric…
Drinking alcohol when you are taking psychiatric medications can cause significant problems. Interactions between alcoholic drinks and these drugs may cause serious problems. Here is a list of common anti-anxiety drugs, prescription sedatives, and antidepressants and the possible effects of mixing them with alcohol use.

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Most women on dialysis – even those who lack interest in sex – are satisfied with their sex lives (Medical News Today)

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Most women on dialysis – even those who lack interest in sex – are satisfied with their sex lives (Medical News Today)
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Full access, full choice for long-acting reversible contraception (Medical News Today)

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Make Your Home Spotless

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Make Your Home Spotless
So, your bratty nephew smeared chocolate pudding all over your new rug, your entire kitchen is coated in flour and butter and every single member of your family has had their derriere on your toilet. It’s time to clean, my friends. Grab an all-purpose cleaner and get scrubbin’! We’ve got quick and easy ways to tackle the kitchen, bathroom and living room. And a bit more, ahem, intensive way to clean that overused toilet.How to Deep Clean Your Bathroom3 All-Natural Cleaning ProductsIs Bleach the Best Cleanser?

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Start Sorting

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After all of those holiday parties and dinners, your kitchen and pantry probably look like a warzone … filled with delicious holiday treats. Get your kitchen in check with easy organizational tips and a step-by-step guide to tidying up the pantry. And once you find your way out of that mountain of holiday cards and promotional flyers, check out these ultra-organized, ultra-amazing living rooms for a little organization inspo.How to Organize the Kitchen in 30 MinutesOrganization Ideas for the Living RoomEasy Living Room Organization

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Scale Laundry Mountain

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Scale Laundry Mountain
Got a little crazy with the cranberry sauce and gravy, huh? I don’t judge. Don’t toss your holiday duds just yet; we’ve got plenty of tips and tricks to save your favorite reindeer sweater from a food-stained fate! (Hint: trying to lick stains off of your clothes does not work. I’ve tried.)How to Remove Red Wine StainsHow to Remove Chocolate StainsHow to Remove Jelly and Jam Stains

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This Playlist Will Inspire You To Make 2014 The Year Of You

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
This Playlist Will Inspire You To Make 2014 The Year Of You
The stress and strain of constantly being connected can sometimes take your life — and your well-being — off course. GPS For The Soul can help you find your way back to balance.

GPS Guides are our way of showing you what has relieved others’ stress in the hopes that you will be able to identify solutions that work for you. We all have de-stressing “secret weapons” that we pull out in times of tension or anxiety, whether they be photos that relax us or make us smile, songs that bring us back to our heart, quotes or poems that create a feeling of harmony, or meditative exercises that help us find a sense of silence and calm. We encourage you to look at the GPS Guide below, visit our other GPS Guides here, and share with us your own personal tips for finding peace, balance and tranquility.

As 2013 comes to a close and we start to focus on our intentions for the coming year, it can become stressful to think about all that we have left to accomplish and all that we aim to do. Instead of letting the anxiety and self-doubt creep in, cast a positive light on your successes and focus on the optimism of a new beginning to help ease your worries.

The playlist below contains songs about hope, renewal and the promise of a brand new year (plus a few that just make you feel good). As you listen (and dance it out), vow to make 2014 the year of you — and your best one yet.

This Is The New Year — A Great Big World
Unwritten — Natasha Bedingfield
It’s Time — Imagine Dragons
Roar — Katy Perry
Our Time Now — Plain White T’s
Brave — Sara Bareilles
Don’t You (Forget About Me) — Simple Minds
Let’s Start The New Year Right — Bing Crosby
You Make My Dreams — Hall and Oates
On Top Of The World — Imagine Dragons
Auld Lang Syne — Colbie Caillat

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Multi-component therapy shown beneficial in treating PTSD in adolescent girls (Medical News Today)

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Multi-component therapy shown beneficial in treating PTSD in adolescent girls (Medical News Today)
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Dermatologist Offers Tips on Dry Winter Skin (Yahoo!)

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Dermatologist Offers Tips on Dry Winter Skin (Yahoo!)
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New Year’s Resolutions: The 5 Mistakes to Avoid to Create Resolutions That Stick

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
New Year’s Resolutions: The 5 Mistakes to Avoid to Create Resolutions That Stick
Yes, I know. You likely loathe New Year’s Resolutions because you never keep them and usually just end up regretting ever uttering any declaration on New Year’s Eve. I know how it feels. How many times have I told myself I’m going to rid myself of my love handles, get up at 5 a.m. each day to meditate, cook a new recipe every week for my family, curse less, drink more (water, that is), and on it goes?

But, as much as you may not like to hear this, research has found that people who make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions.

The problem lies in both what we resolve to do and how we go about doing it. Often with too little thought and too much bravado to be able to stick with it until Valentines day… if that. Indeed there’s a hard science to success when it comes to achieving goals, making life changes, and cultivating new habits — whether on January 1st or any other time of the year.

So rather than give you a long list of TO DO’s, here are the top five ‘NOT TO DO’s’ (aka mistakes) that people make. Avoiding them will help you set yourself up to move beyond the default course of least resistance in 2014 and make those changes you know, deep down, you want to make.

1. Not Meaningful Enough. For a resolution to stick, it has to be aligned with your core values. Most people want to look better or be wealthier, but your resolutions have to go beyond superficial desires and connect with what truly matters most to you. If they don’t connect to something you care about deeply, you will be hard-pressed to hold your resolve at the first temptation to ditch it.

2. Too vague. Resolutions like ‘be happier,’ ‘have more life balance,’ or ‘get fitter’ are doomed to fail because they lack specificity. If you’re currently a couch potato who eats a tub of ice cream each night after your take-out dinner, then simply eating half a tub of ice cream and walking an extra 10 paces a day won’t do the trick.

The more specific you are, the more likely you will be able to succeed. Describe your goals and resolutions in ways that allow you to track your progress and measure your success. For instance, if you want to build a better relationship with your partner, schedule at least one date night per month, or, as I’ve done with my husband, one weekend away — sans kids — per year.

Likewise, if you’re committed to a better health and exercise regime, schedule how many workouts you’ll fit into each week and how long they’ll be. If you want more balance, decide exactly what would need to be added or subtracted to/from your life to bring it into greater balance.

3. Insufficient Accountability. Never underestimate the power of your environment to support or sabotage your success. As much as you might want to make a change, the environment you live in — from the state of your closet to the people you hang out with — can pull you back into your old default habits of thinking and acting in no time flat. It’s therefore essential to create an environment of accountability that makes it hard for you NOT to do what you’re committed to.

Design a progress chart, recruit a cheer squad from your family and friends, post your goal to Facebook, ask a friend to hold you accountable, hire a coach or trainer (and pay for 3 months upfront!), join a group of likeminded people, create a blog. Likewise, if there are people or things in your life that pull you down or off track, address them directly and set whatever boundaries you know you will need up front.

4. Overly Ambitious. Trying to do too many things at once can make you so unfocused that you just bounce around like Tigger on Red Bull, not quite sure in which direction you are going. Set yourself up for success and start with JUST ONE major undertaking come January one. Then break that goal down into small bite-size steps. Small steps, strong start!

5. Unrealistic Expectations. It’s easy to get caught up in an initial wave of enthusiasm as you imagine yourself looking svelte in a bikini on the beach next summer, only to come crashing down when your initial efforts don’t produce immediate and spectacular results. So focus on the process itself, and develop greater competence of the actual activity, habit, or skill you want to acquire. For instance, if you want to become more fit, focus on being able to jog a little bit farther every time you go for a walk, rather than being able to run 5 miles within a week.

Likewise, expect hiccups, ‘bad days,’ and setbacks as you start out. If you happen to mess up, lose your resolve, press the snooze button, or revert to a familiar well-practiced behavior, don’t beat up on yourself. Okay, so you didn’t get to the gym like you’d planned. How about 5 minutes of stretching? When it comes to slipping up and tripping up, you are in very good company (yes, including my own).

Don’t make your failings mean more than they do. Reflect on the lessons they hold, make adjustments accordingly, then tap your inner John Wayne and get back in the saddle. Life rewards those who work at it.

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7 Cures for Kids’ Post-Holiday Letdown

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7 Cures for Kids’ Post-Holiday Letdown
For children, the holidays are the most exciting and wonderful time of the year. Between the gifts, delicious food, and time off from school, it’s easy to see why kids can feel a little gloomy once the festivities are all over. To prevent post-holiday letdown, try following these tips.Help Your Tween Deal with a Disappointing HolidayDealing With Ugly Gifts

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Holiday Stress Tips

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Holiday Stress Tips
We all deal with stress in different ways, of course, but I don’t recommend drinking as your way to deal with holiday stress. That’s reserved for work days.Yoga > StressDo More Than Survive; Thrive This Holiday

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Is Regifting Ever Okay?

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Is Regifting Ever Okay?
Everyone has received an unwanted gift at least once in his or her life. That doesn’t mean the item is bad or useless. It simply means that it doesn’t work for you. Here’s the right way to regift unwanted presents.Regifting GuidelinesTips for Hassle Free Returns

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Celebrities with Bipolar Disorder – C & D

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Celebrities with Bipolar Disorder – C & D
Found here is the C and D portion of a registry of celebrities who have bipolar disorder (manic depression). In 1993, Joy Ikelman began compiling this list ‘to provide inspiration for those who have bipolar disorder’; and has now passed the torch to the About Bipolar Disorder Guides. The compilation includes both living and deceased celebrities. This registry is a work in progress.

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Hair analysis found elevated stress hormone concentrations in obese children as young as 8 (Medical News Today)

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Teddy Bear, The Talking Porcupine, Thanks Santa For His Christmas Gifts In The Cutest Way Possible

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Teddy Bear, The Talking Porcupine, Thanks Santa For His Christmas Gifts In The Cutest Way Possible
Teddy Bear, the talking porcupine, spent his holiday eating a special treat from Santa.

Teddy is an ‘animal ambassador’ with Dallas-based wildlife education company Zooniversity, and this isn’t the first time he’s been at the center of public attention.

But the corn cobs he got for Christmas literally had him shouting with joy. Watch for his special call out to Santa.

And then go like Teddy Bear on his Facebook page.

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Great Starts

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Great Starts
Breakfast can be one of the hardest meals to prioritize, what with the whole waking-up-is-hard-to-do aspect. But you can always have breakfast for dinner! (What’s up, Creamy Hashbrown Potatoes?) Or, dip into Larsen’s Busy Cooks Recipe Box to find fab recipes that are ready in a flash. Five-Ingredient Breakfast MenuStart With Eggs: Easy RecipesBreakfast Casserole RecipesFrench Toast Recipes

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Journal of Experimental Biology: Coping with stress in a changing world (Medical News Today)

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Fast, Cheap, and Out of Control

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Fast, Cheap, and Out of Control
No extra dough this month? No problem. Our Busy Cooks site is here to make your culinary wishes come true without packing a wallop to your wallet. Pick one of our many delicious by-the-dollar menus, and enjoy everything from Salmon Orzo Salad to Parmesan Chicken for just a few dollars per guest. Now that’s what we call good eats. Meals Under $10Last Minute AppetizersEasy Dessert Recipes

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Seasonal affective disorder: could you spot the signs? (Medical News Today)

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‘Work with anxiety’ rather than seek calm to improve performance (Medical News Today)

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10 Christmas Customs With Pagan Roots

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10 Christmas Customs With Pagan Roots
Most readers are familiar with the Christian view of Christmas, but did you know many of our favorite holiday customs (we’re looking at you, mistletoe) can trace their roots back to Pagan origins? All About Yule10 Magical Yule Gifts

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Most women on dialysis — even those who lack interest in sex — are satisfied with sex lives

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Most women on dialysis — even those who lack interest in sex — are satisfied with sex lives
Among women on chronic dialysis, sexual inactivity is common, with the most frequently described reasons being lack of interest in sex and lack of a partner. Rarely is sexual difficulty reported as a reason for lack of interest. Most women on chronic dialysis -— including those lacking interest in sex -— are satisfied with their sex lives.

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10 Annoying Things We Hope To Leave Behind In 2014

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GPS for the Soul – The Huffington Post
10 Annoying Things We Hope To Leave Behind In 2014
2013 was a year of many annoyances. From Miley Cyrus’s twerking to voting citizens who support the Affordable Care Act but hate Obamacare, stupid people seemed to proliferate the planet. Here’s what we hope to see end in 2014:

1) People telling you what not to say.
OK, we here at HuffPost are guilty as charged. Throughout the year, we have been more than a little fascinated with telling you what not to say to various people. You know, things not to say to a menopausal woman, a person who uses a wheelchair, a childless woman, a single woman, a newly widowed, divorced or separated woman. We’ve told you what not to say to an empty nester, to a family with a special needs child, to a family with an adopted child.

For the record, we’re not the only ones doing it. But can’t we all just call a moratorium here? Since everyone’s boiling point is different, who is anybody to tell you what to say to someone else? How about we just stop these compilations — unless someone would like to make a list of things never to say to someone (like me) who writes these things for a living?

2) The Food Police.
OK, this needs to be said: Back away from my bread and cheese and leave me alone already with your endless food proselytizing. What we eat has become a political statement and our dinner tables the battleground. The Food Crazies need to stuff a sock in it and take all those pesky Juice Cleansers with them. I don’t care what you eat and I don’t care what you won’t eat. I just want you to eat/not eat it without acting like you are leading a parade to salvation.

3) Shaming.
Shaming has become the darling phrase de jour. We have fat-shaming, body-image shaming, and smoker-shaming. If you yell at your kid for shouting in a restaurant instead of gently reminding him to “use his indoor voice,” you are probably guilty of parent-shaming. I get it. Nobody likes to be made to feel bad about stuff. It’d be nice if we could all just get along. But maybe it’s time to lighten this all up. Or at least come up with another word for it and leave “shaming” for what the ayatollahs do to women who want to drive.

4) Making Crazies into Heroes.
The Internet has given us the ability to make instant heroes out of the wrong people sometimes. I’m thinking here of North Carolina dad Tommy Jordan who in 2012, after discovering his daughter’s profanity-laced Facebook rant about her chores, launched into a tirade of his own — viewed more than 38 million times on YouTube — that concludes with him pumping bullets into her laptop. OK, now who among us hasn’t on occasion wanted to empty an automatic assault weapon into their kid’s computer? Right. But we don’t, do we? Let’s not forget the N.J. waitress who claimed to be stiffed on a tip because she is gay only to turn out to maybe be the one who duped all the well-meaning people who sent her donations. Ugh, double ugh.

How about if we develop some standards for who becomes an online hero? I nominate Deborah Cohan, the woman who led a pre-double mastectomy dance in the operating room to Beyonce, to head the list.

5) Politicians who misbehave.
Sure, this is nothing new. But how can anyone not hope that Anthony Weiner’s weiner and Rob Ford’s crack pipe disappear forever? Congress is bad enough with its playground shenanigans of “I can talk longer than you” and “If you like him, we can’t be friends.” But the weiner and the crack pipe? Just. Must. Go.

6) Selfies.
Here’s something to bear in mind as you post your 100th selfie of the day: There is a medical classification known as narcissistic personality disorder, named after a mythical Greek boy who fell in love with his reflection in the water. The boy at first did not realize he was infatuated with his own image, but when he did, he died out of grief for having fallen in love with someone who did not exist outside of himself. Thank you Facebook friend Joseph Rick Cruse for reminding us of this story. How about we all go share it right now?

As a rule, aren’t we all better off when we look to others for inspiration and focus our affections on people who are not ourselves? So can we maybe please stop pointing the camera inward already? Besides, it not only distorts your nose — and not to pick on Anthony Weiner too much here, but other parts as well — and sends the message that your life is all about you. It shouldn’t be.

7) Parents afraid to parent.
Can we put an end already to the “every kid on the team gets a trophy” mentality? You aren’t building their self-esteem as much as you are creating self-entitled and — dare I say? — delusional young adults who believe that everything they do is just peachy keen. Truth is, nobody gets a job because they tried hard; jobs go to those who produce results (or who at very least have a family connection to the boss).

People have stopped parenting. They are afraid to tell their teenagers they have no business sending Snapchats of their booty or that it is not OK to post “LMFAO” on Facebook. If you buy your sixth-grade daughter clothes that the hooker on the corner admires and covets, don’t act indignant when your kid gets sent home from school — assuming that there is the rare school principal with the courage to send her home. Set some boundaries and do the job you signed up to do. Be there for your kids, be a role model, be a parent first and friend second. You may return my high horse to the stable now.

8) Snark.
Oh, you know who you are. You post hateful comments anonymously. You think being cruel is cool and your favorite site is Reddit.com. Why don’t you try, just for a change, to go post some pretty photos of sunsets on Pinterest? You might feel better because honestly, nobody can hate as much as you guys do without developing stomach ulcers. And since you didn’t sign up for Obamacare, that could turn out to be costly for you.

Snark needs to vanish from our culture already, and take its second cousin Rudeness with it. No more talking on your cell phone in a restaurant while your dinner companion twiddles her thumbs (Oh right, she’s probably texting not twiddling.)

9) Weird-flavored coffee drinks.
Pumpkin should not be a latte flavor. It crosses a line of nature. Garlic ice cream did that too a few years ago and now, aside from The Rose restaurants and the city of Gilroy, Calif. (the garlic capital of the world), nobody would dare suggest you try some. Pumpkin lattes should go away and take Red Velvet lattes with them.

10) Device addictions.
Yes, we are device-addicts. We give tremendous lip service to not bringing our phones to the dinner table and then we discreetly take a glance whenever they vibrate. Much has been written about our addiction to our smart phones and how we need to disconnect sometimes to actually reconnect with the humans in our life. We’ve all read those stories. What we all haven’t done though is acted on them. Let 2014 be the year we actually stop talking and start disconnecting.

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Sniffing out danger: Rutgers scientists say fearful memories can trigger heightened sense of smell (Medical News Today)

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