Setting a goal to make someone smile today will do more to boost your own happiness than setting a general goal to make someone happy, according to a new study.
Researchers from Stanford University, the University of Houston and Harvard University found that making concrete goals that can actually objectively be achieved can do more to boost happiness than making more abstract goals.
In fact, “discrepancies between aspirations and reality can be critical factors that, in extreme cases, may even lead the act of helping to eventually becoming a source of unhappiness,” study researcher Melanie Rudd, an assistant professor of marketing at the University of Houston, said in a statement.
That’s because if you are expecting to see positive results by engaging in endless prosocial behaviors, but those results never come to fruition, this could eventually lead to something called “helper burnout,” researchers explained. Therefore, having a more concrete goal to accomplish could help expectations to be better tamed — leading to less disappointment and burnout.
The study, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, included several experiments. In one of the experiments, 50 people completed two surveys, taken a day apart. In the first survey, the participants were instructed to perform an act of kindness; some of the participants were specifically instructed to “Do something to make someone else smile,” while others were instructed to “Do something to make someone else happy.”
Then, a day later, the participants took another survey, where they were asked to detail what their act of kindness was. The researchers also gauged their own personal happiness levels, as well as how effective they thought their acts of kindness were at either eliciting happiness or a smile.
People who were assigned specifically to make someone smile felt like they “created more personal happiness with their act than did those in the happy goal condition,” researchers reported in the study.
In another experiment, researchers had 127 people undergo a similar test to the previous one, where they had to either make someone happy or make someone smile. However, the follow-up survey administered to the participants in this experiment also included this question: “How well did the outcome of the act you performed meet your expectations of accomplishing your assigned goal?” They were also asked about how specific their goal was that they had in mind as they were performing their act of kindness.
Researchers found that the participants asked to make someone smile had a more specific goal in mind as they were performing their act of kindness, compared with people who were asked to make someone happy. In addition, those asked to make someone smiled “perceived that the outcome of their act better met their expectations for accomplishing their prosocial goal than did the happy goal participants.”
And just like in the previous experiment, those assigned to making someone smile felt like they created more personal happiness than those assigned to make someone happy.
“The boost to personal happiness brought about by the more concretely-framed prosocial goal was driven by the actual outcome of the goal-directed act better meeting one’s expectations for accomplishing the prosocial goal,” they wrote.